I attended Jingping's wedding dinner on last saturday withe the rest of my poly-buddies. Boy, it has been a couple of months since I last saw them. I sure do miss them.
I didn't take as much pics as on Shuqin's wedding dinner, and I have been a little wee too busy to sort them out yet, so I shall add them on the next post. Hehe, sorry peeps. So for now, u can visit Jac's site to take a peep on our most beautiful bride *NoseBleeds*. Haha.
We were flipping through her bridal shots at the dinner reception area, and I had to say "WOW". Nature's had given her the height and frame of a model, which I am totally envious about! She natually always look good in almost anything she wore, but seeing her in an bridal dress was a real eye-opener! She looked just like a model out of a bridal magazine. She and her husband about made one of the most compatible couple I've ever seen. I was thinking how lucky the photographer was to work with them. I would splash their bridal pics all over the bridal shop if I were him. Good advertising shoots.
I pretty enjoyed the food served, they have got my favourite yam paste! But I was so full by the 5th course to enjoy more. Regrets stuffing myself with so much peanuts during the cocktail reception. Wearing a body-hugging tube dress too was also a spoiler. I could have eaten more heartily without it.
I think something might have just triggered the marriage impulse in me, because I started making mental notes about the few wedding that I have attended. I even check out the Wedding Forums in the CozyCotwebby. Maybe I am seeing marriage as one of the options of fulfilling my desire of moving out. My sis would totally agree. But nah, I still don't think I would have a wedding dinner if I do get married. All the customary nuisance are really way too much trouble.
I detest anything thats bothersome. But Fen is right, to hold a wedding dinner or not is really not up to the couple to decide. I should start psycho-ing my parents now, which I am already doing, by the way. So hopefully by the time someone is willing to take me and more importantly, vice versus, they would be more agreeable with doing away with all the traditional hassles.
I wonder how do most of the girls think? Is a wedding dinner and all its traditions necessary in a marriage? Most say marriage should be just between the couple. I agree but we have to accept that it hardly happens. Talk and action are two different things all together, eventually. Perhaps while I'm saying this, I am already planning for my big pain-in-the-ass customary wedding. Haha. No, don't worry, I'm not.
I'm sure the usual guy would be more than glad not to hold a wedding. Save the money and trouble. Maybe I think like a guy sometimes, in other words, I guess my thinking are pretty independent, for a girl. For example, most of my plans in life involve me as the achiever. I don't dream and expect my significant other to fulfill my dreams for me. So for one, he need not be rich or owns alot, because I expect myself to be financially comfortable, not him. If I want a nice little property or a car, I will find ways to realise them by myself, he need not worry nor slog for them. I guess MCPs or egoistic guys might not be impressed about with a girl who plan her ambitions without him? Or would they?
Of course, I do have my expectations of who plays what roles in a marriage. I think its totally reasonable to split the household bills accordingly to who earns more. And I also don't expect him to bring in a big bulk of his salary for me to squander on my tai-tai hankerings, I will be financially independent. Helloo, its already 2007. Well... Hehe, although once a while pampering on a shopaholic will be a really nice gesture --- not a necessity but will definitely be very much appreciated for.
Yet while I may also suggest that its perfectly fine for the female to pay full for the holidays if the male does his part for the usual bread, I expect the male to take care of majority of the expenses related to the children or the hospital maternity bills. Afterall, whose surname are they taking? HIS, not the feminine half's. U want a pretty wife, a cozy home to return to after work, hot meals, sex and children who takes your looks and surname, and have the cheek not to pay for them? Lets not be calculative huh.
Some guys are really stingy when it comes to the household finances. I recently heard about this guy who after splitting the wedding bills 50-50 with his wife, went on to claim half the supermarket bills he spent on their new home from his newly-wed wife. The most annoying part was, apart from the dollars, he insisted on the cents too. And that was just first week of marriage life. TskTsk. I look down on him manz. My advice, divorce the wimp and make him pay the lawyer's fees and fork out half his salary on your alimony.
